You’re not broken. You’re responding to complex personal and cultural pressures. I offer collaborative, non-pathologizing therapy using Narrative Therapy and EMDR, with advanced specialization in menopause-informed and midlife mental health. Together, we explore the stories and cultural expectations shaping your life - so you can live from your own values and choices.
Depth-oriented therapy for navigating life transitions, identity, and trauma.
Deborah Kitay, LMFT · EMDRIA-Certified · Bria Menopause Specialist
Depth-oriented
Collaborative & non-pathologizing
Menopause-informed
specialization
o You’ve experienced trauma or feel stuck in old patterns, and you’re ready for depth-oriented work that helps you process what hasn’t resolved while seeing you as whole, not broken.
o You’re navigating perimenopause or menopause, and this transition involves more than physical symptoms—your sense of self, relationships, and direction feel different, and you want therapy that understands the full psychological and relational impact.
o You’re at a major life transition - divorce, career change, empty nest, loss, illness - and the roles or identities that once defined you no longer fit, leaving you uncertain about what comes next.
o You’ve lived under the story of “never enough”- perfectionism, people-pleasing, over-functioning - and you’re exhausted by expectations that don’t reflect who you are or how you want to live.
This work might not be the right fit if...
You're in acute crisis and need immediate stabilization
You're looking for a 6-session solution or directive advice-giving
You prefer structured skills-based therapy
I blend Narrative Therapy and EMDR to support meaningful change - not by fixing you, but by helping you understand and shift the patterns, experiences, stories, and expectations shaping your life.
We look at your life as rich and multi-layered. We identify the narratives that have shaped you - often inherited or imposed by others - and co-author new ones that reflect who you truly are and want to be. Problems are separate from your identity. Together, we examine where these stories came from and whether they still serve you - so you can move forward with greater clarity and choice.
I’m EMDRIA-certified and use EMDR thoughtfully and collaboratively to help process experiences that remain emotionally or physically “stuck.” This evidence-based work supports real movement and integration without requiring you to relive painful details endlessly.
I'm Bria-certified and trained specifically to support the psychological, relational, and identity dimensions of menopause. This isn't about symptom management - it's about identity, grief, reclaiming authority, and navigating a profound threshold. Menopause and midlife transitions can affect mood, identity, relationships, and a sense of self in ways that are often dismissed or misinterpreted. My menopause-informed training allows me to hold these experiences within a broader psychological and relational context - without reducing them to symptoms or diagnoses.
You value collaboration and want a therapist who trusts your expertise
You're ready for depth work that's transformative, not just supportive
You want to be seen as whole, not reduced to symptoms
o Over a decade of clinical experience
o EMDRIA-Certified
o Bria-Certified Menopause Specialist
Starting therapy can feel vulnerable. I offer a complimentary 15-minute consultation so we can talk about what is bringing you to seek therapy now, how I work, and whether this feels right for you.
We’ll talk about the concerns you’d like to address.
I'll explain my approach and answer questions
We'll talk about logistics: scheduling, fees, what to expect
You'll walk away with clarity about next steps
Fee: I offer private pay sessions at $225 per 50-minute session. I accept Aetna and Medicare insurance, and I provide superbills for all other insurance providers for out-of-network reimbursement.