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Something feels unsettled. And it won't stay quiet.
You may be managing. Or stretched thin. Either way, it matters.
We stay with that moment long enough to see where it came from.
Not to correct you.
To understand what that voice has been trying to do for you, what it has cost, and what else might be true.
We work with the problem without letting it define you. We look for the context around it, not what you've been told is wrong with you.
The aim is clarity first. From there, greater consistency between what you know and how you live. More capacity for what life is asking, and more room to make choices that fit.
Therapy for complicated lives.
When what used to work no longer does.
Deborah Kitay, LMFT · EMDRIA-Certified · Bria Menopause Specialist
Meet Debi
I work best with people who think carefully about their lives, and still find themselves stuck in a familiar loop. Not because they lack insight, but because insight alone doesn’t always change how a life feels from the inside.
In sessions, I stay close to the language you’re using.
If a diagnosis has shaped how you understand yourself, we’ll spend time exploring what it explains and what it misses.
If you describe yourself as the problem, we widen the frame.
The shift is often simple, but not small.
From “Something’s wrong with me” to “This has been hard.”
From “I should be better at this” to “I’ve been carrying a lot.”
I'm a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT 105063). I've been doing this work for over a decade. My approach is grounded in Narrative Therapy. I have focused training in menopause-informed mental health, and I use EMDR when it helps loosen what the past is still holding in place.
This work might resonate if...
• You’ve been holding it together, and something is starting to strain under the surface
• You don’t feel like yourself lately, and the old story no longer fits
• Your emotions feel more intense or less predictable than they used to
• You’ve lived under “never enough” and you’re tired of organizing your life around it
• You want a therapist who will stay curious and think with you.
o Over a decade of clinical experience
o EMDRIA-Certified
o Bria-Certified Menopause Specialist
My Approach
People make sense in context.
Family systems. Cultural expectations. Roles you’ve carried. The body you live in. The season of life you’re in.
I stay engaged. I stay with you. We think together.
Narrative Therapy
Working with the stories shaping your life.
Examining the beliefs, roles, and expectations that have shaped how you see yourself.
Menopause and Midlife
Understanding identity shifts in midlife.
Holding the changes of midlife in a wider context.
EMDR
Reducing the influence of past experience on the present.
What this work tends to open up
Not a new version of you.
A truer one.
Over time, as context widens and language softens, you may notice:
• Less self-criticism, and a clearer way to express what you’ve been living
• A wider context, so the problem stops feeling like who you are
• More capacity for discomfort and uncertainty without collapsing into blame
• A more deliberate relationship to the expectations you’ve been carrying
• More room to act with integrity, even when the choice is not simple
How It Works
Not a new version of you.
A truer one.
Over time, as context widens and language softens, you may notice:
• Less self-criticism, and a clearer way to express what you’ve been living
• A wider context, so the problem stops feeling like who you are
• More capacity for discomfort and uncertainty without collapsing into blame
• A more deliberate relationship to the expectations you’ve been carrying
• More room to act with integrity, even when the choice is not simple